Wanting To Die Saved My Life

In my 20’s, after my diagnosis of borderline personality disorder, I tried to cope the old fashioned way – the way everyone without a mental illness is told to get a handle on themselves again. I believed in the hype of exercise and eat right and all your troubles will melt away into a puddle of endorphins and selfies. To me, the basis of a good life was to have a good job, get married, go out on the weekends. Smile.

Everything will be okay if you just pretend it’s all okay.

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Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas – For YOU!

We’ve all seen how Christmas is ‘supposed’ to go on TV.

The family, the films, the presents, the food, the carols, the eggnog. Yup. That perfect Hallmark card Christmas is an image many of us have grown up with and even tried to live up to.

And for those of us who can have that and have it not cause financial troubles or mental instability, that’s great – do you. But not everyone has or wants a Christmas like that.

It’s no surprise to anyone that Christmas is a time where mental health is the most vulnerable. There’s so much pressure from every direction and anyone who disapproves this festive cheer is instantly labelled a grinch.

But in reality, Christmas Day is just another day, and just like any other day it’s up to YOU how you spend it. Whether it’s around family, friends, or by yourself – there’s nothing wrong with doing whatever you want to do instead of what every other person wants you to do.

Don’t drown yourself in guilt or debt or damaging situations for the sake of a day.

If you want a small Christmas, that’s fine. If you want to spend it with friends, that’s fine too. If you’d rather be alone, that’s also fine. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting to work or treat it like just a normal day.

This Christmas, you deserve to be happy and safe. So, spend it however you like.

P.S. If you need help, please reach out. If you know someone who’s vulnerable this holiday season, please check in on them.