Guestblog: Finding Our Own Positive by Jordyn C

Everyone finds it hard to love themselves. From the minute that we are born, society throws it’s propaganda in our faces. Maybe some of the influences are obvious, but many of them are subtle. So subtle that we don’t even realize that we are ingesting the nonsense. In every different culture and country, we are showed standards. These standards are supposed to resemble success, happiness, acceptance, and most of all, perfection. Meeting these standards has become such a crucial part of human nature, that acceptance, let alone loving who we are is unheard of.

Today, I want to tell my story of navigating this societal jungle.

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How CBT Is Rebuilding My Self Esteem After Being Cheated On by Nadia Zywina

I sat tapping my fingers on the stained coffee table in the break room when my phone buzzed,   “ Can I swing by after work? We need to talk.” The pit of my stomach dropped like a bowling ball being thrown from curled fingertips down a polished alley. I had a slight worry in my mind, later to be confirmed by my boyfriend that he had cheated on me. Now, this was significant to me not just because I had been cheated on and dumped, but because this was the third time in a row this had happened in my seemingly happy relationship. The tables turned on me, I no longer felt like the bowling ball but rather the pins watching helplessly before being knocked down one after another.

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5 Ways To Remember Your Mum This Mother’s Day

If you’ve lost your mum, Mother’s Day can be a difficult time. The adverts are everywhere, and shops are all filled with cards and presents about how important mums are. No matter how your mum passed or how long it’s been since, it always stings just that little bit more around Mother’s Day.

It’s been over seven years since I lost my mum, so I’ve gotten through quite a few Mother’s Days, and every year I’m still unsure of how the day will affect me. If you’re still struggling with this day you can read last year’s blog: Surviving Smothers Day, or you can continue below as I list five ways you can remember your mum on this day.

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Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas – For YOU!

We’ve all seen how Christmas is ‘supposed’ to go on TV.

The family, the films, the presents, the food, the carols, the eggnog. Yup. That perfect Hallmark card Christmas is an image many of us have grown up with and even tried to live up to.

And for those of us who can have that and have it not cause financial troubles or mental instability, that’s great – do you. But not everyone has or wants a Christmas like that.

It’s no surprise to anyone that Christmas is a time where mental health is the most vulnerable. There’s so much pressure from every direction and anyone who disapproves this festive cheer is instantly labelled a grinch.

But in reality, Christmas Day is just another day, and just like any other day it’s up to YOU how you spend it. Whether it’s around family, friends, or by yourself – there’s nothing wrong with doing whatever you want to do instead of what every other person wants you to do.

Don’t drown yourself in guilt or debt or damaging situations for the sake of a day.

If you want a small Christmas, that’s fine. If you want to spend it with friends, that’s fine too. If you’d rather be alone, that’s also fine. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting to work or treat it like just a normal day.

This Christmas, you deserve to be happy and safe. So, spend it however you like.

P.S. If you need help, please reach out. If you know someone who’s vulnerable this holiday season, please check in on them.