You’re not worried about your fat friend’s health, you just don’t want them to feel empowered

Let’s face it. We’ve all done it, even if it’s just once. We’ve looked at someone and thought “At least I’m not THAT big.”

Well, hey. *Waves* I’m your big friend and I’ve been playing that role for the majority of my life, supplying you with the security that it’s ok you couldn’t fit into your size ten jeans this morning, because at least you’re not as big as me. And that makes you feel better, right? Of course it does.

Whether you’re a guy or a girl, it doesn’t matter. You’ve sought after comfort in the judgement of others before.

But then the unthinkable happened. Fat people started to get…confident. The body positive and fat acceptance movement exploded. Plus size became a regular appearance on the high street and big models became just as famous as the slim ones.

Big girls became outspoken and fought back against the humiliation and shame the rest of the world had been loading on us to make themselves feel better. And suddenly we weren’t going to be the fall guy anymore. Fat wasn’t a dirty word slung from passing car windows. A bouncy ass and jiggling thighs had become acceptable, even desirable.

So, what was left to criticise? What was left to take away and pile onto your self confidence?


You might have McDonald’s twice a week, but you gotta be healthier than me, right? You take the elevator to the second floor every day, but you gotta be healthier than me, right? Right?!

I’m so sick of reading everyone else’s opinions on my health. I’m sick of reading bullshit comments about how we’re recruiting fellow fatties and promoting diabetes and heart problems. And these comments don’t come from medical professionals, they come from anyone and everyone who is upset that they can’t cling to their fat friend’s insecurities anymore to make themselves feel superior.

Because that’s the whole issue here. Never before have people cared so much about the health of strangers. Smoking, drinking…even the sugar tax debate all consisted of people protesting “it’s our bodies and we can do what we want with them!” No. Quite simply the health concerns around fat acceptance is just the same shoe they use to try and stamp on other movements such as Black Lives Matter (“all lives matter yknow!” Eye roll).

If my confidence is offensive to you, then your issues are far bigger than any fat girl’s thigh measurements or blood pressure reading.

Art by TheHopefulHermit


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